Friday, February 14, 2014

L O V E & Relationships: A Valentine's Day Post

Since the day that is dedicated to love and all things related to it is quickly approach us, I decided to write a semi-personal post about my thoughts on this "Hallmark" holiday, love, and relationships in general. 

I have been super blessed to be around a lot of loving couples all through out my life.  My parents have been together for over 20 years and strong believers in the sense that Valentine's day is everyday and you do not need a day marked on the calendar to show your love to the people you care about the most.  

Now, I know what you must be thinking...what the hell does she know about love ? She has been single for what feels like 100 years. The answer is yes, I have been single for a while but its been such a great amount of time and a great learning experience.

I am very set in my ways, I know what I want in a relationship and I know what I want in the person I want to have a relationship with.  I have had people tell me that I'm "too picky".  I don't think I'm "picky" at all. I know what I want in life and I will never settle for someone "just because". Why should I have to settle ? I know what I'm worth and I want someone to appreciate me in all that I am...if this means that I will remain single for the rest of my life, so be it. 

In the past years, I've learned a lot about myself. I learned what I want in someone, what I will tolerate and what I won't, but most importantly I learned how important it is to love yourself first.  How can you love someone else if you don't love yourself ? 

My previous relationship was a learning experience/eye-opener...never get together with a selfish person that only have their wants and needs ahead of yours. I feel that a relationship should never focus on just one person, it should be about both people. COMPROMISE & COMMUNICATION are such vital factors when it comes to a successful relationship. If you're unhappy in your current relationship, you should tell them ! How are they supposed to know what you're feeling if you don't communicate?

A relationship should never be "my way or the highway", if you honestly believe that you will find someone with this mind set, it will happen for you but they will eventually get tired of your ass and bounce. You have to give a little to get a little. Don't argue over the stupidest things in the world, there will be bigger things that you will need to hash out with your partner. Do you honestly want to lose an important person over a "why didn't you tell me you where going to such-and-such place?" I think not ! 

I hope you enjoyed this post & hope you have a wonderful day with your loved ones! 

With love always,


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